[its Jeanne-Marie]

since the seton hall fire, there are very specific rules of what can be displayed in a dorm room, even for decorative purposes. it may seem stupid, but all those things (candles incense etc) can pose more of a threat than you think, with college kids being as careless as we sometimes can be. basically what it comes down to is students know these rules when moving in, and are reminded every periodical inspection. if they choose not to follow the rules, then the people who impemented them have every right to take action. the smart thing to do would be to hide things over break, or when you know an inspection will be taking place. underage residents are also not supposed to have alcohol in their possession, but do you think that gets followed? there are ways around everything. also, once you get to college you will realize it's not always the RAs who "suck" but many times it's the GRD or the AD who are really hardcore about enforcing the rules. most RAs are very chill and don't really care what you do (mine lives next door to me, and actually covers for me so i won't get in trouble for certain things) all in all, don't feel bad, he could have avoided this and there is nothing for you to feel bad about