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Originally Posted by Ian
no one ever said he was unhappy with his girlfriend. he just said he wanted a lap dance because he's never had one. last time I checked, no one ever went to jail for going to a strip club and getting a lap dance.
again, its entirely his call, but if he has never had one, he might as well get one. its not cheating, he's still gonna go home to the same girl he did the night before, I dont see a problem with it.
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no, no one said he was unhappy with her, but an inference was drawn... if he has to see someone else take their clothes off, then there must be something wrong with his relationship with the current woman. or, more specifically, knowing it's something that she is against, and wanting to do it anyway, just because he has never done it before, then there is a problem in the relationship (moreso with him than the relationship, i would think). or, just the fact that he is asking if this is something the majority of people think is ok so he can justify it in his own mind, should he go, then there are underlying problems.
and just because it is not against the law doesn't mean it's not morally or ethically wrong. there are many things that are not against the law but you don't do them because of morals or ethics, whether they be personal or business, etc.
obviously, if he wants the relationship to work then it's not just "his call". he needs to take her feelings into account, and not just how much **** he is going to catch when she finds out he went against her wishes. it's like telling someone that it would hurt you if they went and did a particular something, and then without another thought you go and do that particular something. you know it's going to hurt them, but you do it anyway?