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Originally Posted by Untamed
I could probably write a book on "Compromise" when it comes to marriage and hobbies.
The key, as with all things in life, is moderation - or finding someone who enjoys the same things that you do, without becoming obsessed with it. If she can tolerate your hobbies, and you spend enough time with her doing other things, you'll work out just fine. Likewise, if you both enjoy cars, but have other interests together (and separate) you'll also do fine. You need time apart, doing other things, that you can share later.
Meeting women and getting to know them is a whole different subject. Just remember that you need to enjoy more things than just cars. Sometimes dating is a good chance to try new things - nothing makes a woman smile more than giving her the chance to teach you something new. Walk in her world for a date or two and decide if you have enough interest in her and what she likes, to continue. If all you like and want is to hang out with cars and the people who own them, then your prospects for meeting other women with the same mindset, is diminished.
I complain a lot about marriage, because I'm always compromising. But having said that, married life really isn't that bad as long as you can live in her world as much as you want her in yours.
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a wise man once told me that marriage should not contain compromise. it instead should be complete sacrifice. it was a very interesting perspective. i wish i saved the lecture.
i met my gf in college. she occasionally researches cars and such to impress me. but then again, i try my best not to talk about cars too much. it should be no different from us being car guys. keep the car talk for us, and the rest for your better half. thats what this forum is for!