i am DONE with relationships

[jimmyboy8301]

well last wednesday my girlfriend of 2 years left me. She was living with me and had a job and was going to school down here. She quit school and the job and moved back home. She now does nothing all day and runs round with her friend going tanning and shopping (and she's broke). We had our problems but i treated her like a princess. The day she left me I found out that she told one of my best friends that she liked him and she wanted to be with him. He also told me that if he went along with it she would have cheated on me. I tried talking to her every night to get her to change her mind and to give me a chance. I wrote her all types of love notes. I bought her a dozen roses a love poem book and a scrap-book to start a new relationship. She wouldn't have anything to do with me untill this past tuesday when she met with me to talk. She said she wanted to try things again but she just wants to be single for now. We hugged and talked about things and she said that maybe soon we would try things again. The next day we went for dinner and before she went she texted my friend and said "i don't really want to go but it might be fun to **** with his head". I found out last night that for the past week she sent my friend a series of 16 pictures of herself undressing and more. So while she was tellling me she'd like to get back togethor she would go home after and send the pictures. I'm mad at my friend but he assured me nothing happened and he is very sorry. He said he would never talk to her again. When we were talking tuesday she was crying because she only got to see her grandfather for an hour before he died wednesday. That is because when she left me wednesday she stopped at his house to talk. My ex before her cheated on me with 2 of my friends and she knew how much that hurt me. We had talked about getting married in a year or 2 and moving to florida togethor if i could get hired as a sheriff's officer. Obviously my friend has since stopped talking to her. I found out that last night she is trying to date some kid that pumps gas at hess, and is a real piece of trash. I can't believe she went from talking about marriage to dumping me for a friend and then when he turned her down going out with some guy that pumps gas. Especially since she knew how much that hurt me. I don't know how i'm supposed to trust someone in a relationship again. SOme of you know my ex and im sure you also can't believe she turned out to be like that.

[qwikz28]

i'm sorry to hear that buddy. unfortunately some girls would rather be treated like crap then be loved. its one of those things about women i will never understand. but in any event we're all hear for ya if you need us

[WayFast84]

Originally Posted by qwikz28

i'm sorry to hear that buddy. unfortunately some girls would rather be treated like crap then be loved. its one of those things about women i will never understand. but in any event we're all hear for ya if you need us

Couldnt of said it any better my self..

[misterjuice]

Sorry to hear that man........It's hard, but you should just move on (i'm not telling you anything you don't already know), especially if she's just doing this to **** with your head. i hate that crap.

[jims69camaro]

ok. she effed up. you tried to patch up the sinking boat and she kept poking holes in the side. you did the best you could. next.

p.s. sometimes you feel like you are searching forever for "the one". keep searching, because when you do find her, it will all be worth it.

[its Jeanne-Marie]

sorry things turned out that way. what she did was wrong, not to defend her...but sometimes people, whether they be girl or guy...do the wrong things out of fear of not knowing what they want. its unfortunate but this kind of selfishness may be the only way they know to make a drastic change, and usually doesn't even end up making him/her happy anyway. she needs to figure herself out, but you don't need to stick around to be hurt by it in the meantime.

don't search, you'll only find what you don't want. worry about yourself, and the right thing will come to you

[BlueFBird]

ur a good guy man i chilled wit u a few times..an u certainly can find someone better with ur personality...ur a great guy man it happens to everyone..better ur not with her now if shes turned into a different person..u can try to change someone back but its never gona happen..keep ur head up

[Rich189]

sorry to hear that man.... my ex cheated on me too after 2 and a half years and i had known her all my life...you tried your best to make it work and thats all you can do... eventually youll find the right girl for you

[Oddball]

Originally Posted by misterjuice

Sorry to hear that man........It's hard, but you should just move on (i'm not telling you anything you don't already know), especially if she's just doing this to **** with your head. i hate that crap.

Here is what you do to get even. It worked very well for me. You tell a few "joint friends" you tried to donate blood but were sent a letter from the red cross asking you to never donate again because of some things they found. Then you wait.

After a few days, she'll be sure to call. Make her sweat. As you can hear her shaking on the other end, tell her during the past two years you have never cheated and had a clean blood test when you started dating. Plead to her that you never cheated and how could you have caught something. Record the conversation as she tells you about who she did (if she did anyone else. In my case she didn't). Then before you tell what you supposedly "have" end the conversation.

After a few days ask how many of your friends she called to get tested.

Then tell her you got the letter because the Red Cross' prescreens gave you a false positive because of the amount of binge drinking you do before donating blood and laugh knowing you just caused her a few days of hell.

[turbo96z28]

not to get off topic......but it seems alot of guys recently are becoming single around the 2 year mark.


should i be worried me and my girl are gonna hit 2 years in July???????

[jims69camaro]

if you do worry, it will be for nothing. no one knows what the future will bring and to sit around wondering if bad stuff is going to happen to you will give you an ulcer and eventually you won't leave the house ever again.

'course, it's up to you.

[trashman01]

if u worry it will happened trust me. my ex use to be at my house every day after i got home from work. then one week she didnt want 2 i said it cool and then we were suppose to go to a football game together, she said be a lil late figuring i wouldnt go, i did and was hanging wit a couple buddies drinking some Dunkin Doughnuts coffe(it was COLD!) i saw her with her arm around another guy and lost it, as i walked past her new bf i threw the coffee at him and i told him thats how i felt. and then proceeded to finish off the firestones on my t/a

edit: my boss was right 2, i started to have money again

[maroman88]

i got 3 years today all looks good for me n im 19 years old lol

[MilehighBird]

I'm very sorry to hear that happened to you. I know how much it must hurt right now. She sounds like a very confused girl and it sucks that she trashed your feelings while she's trying to figure things out. I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason. You might not want to hear this right now but you are very lucky. Just imagine if you had married her, had a kid and then she decided to pull this crap. You would be up a creek big time. Time will heal all wounds. You sound like a good guy. Learn from this and try to dwell on it too much. There are good women out there, you'll know when you find her and then hold on tight. Good luck and stay positive.

[Brando56894]

Originally Posted by jimmyboy8301

The next day we went for dinner and before she went she texted my friend and said "i don't really want to go but it might be fun to **** with his head".

what a bitch..... i hate that ****. this girl i know all came on like she was really into me and ****, whithin about 2 weeks she sent me sumwhere aroun 160 texts. like oh i cant wait to see you, your so cute, i want you, etc... i go to her house after i played paintball with her lil brother and she wants like nothing to do with me. it made me so mad....

[BonzoHansen]

Remember, only the last one is the right one (in theory ) All you can do is live & learn.

Originally Posted by Sam Kinison

...yeah, relationships suck, but what are you going to do? What's the alternative? "Oooohhh, where can I learn to swallow a sword?". Nah, I don't think so.

or something like that.

RIP Sam...died in a 3rd gen....

[jimmyboy8301]

thanks for all the advice guys

[njwitchygirll]

i feel like i should be defending this chick since im a female but after reading what she did to you i have to say she sounds like a serious BEOTCH and your better off without her

[PBodyGT87]

Hey, I admire you for being so mature about the situation, and talking to her about it. But don't just give up on realtionships cuz 2 girls in your past out of a whole world full of them happened to screw up. there's many more out there who are good for you. I can tell you've been a great guy, just keep it up, don't lose faith.

[BigAls87Z28]

That does suck man. I cant belive she went that low. Dont dwell on it man, just gotta move on.

[badzracing]

Originally Posted by maroman88

i got 3 years today all looks good for me n im 19 years old lol

Not to rain on your parade, but if she's young too, wait til she's in her early 20's and wants to "find herself". They never want to find themselves with the guy they've been with for years either. Good luck, though. Hopefully this won't happen to you.

[Mike]

i dont think anyone has said this, but you have a good friend right there for coming to you with it instead of letting her get what she wants.....
that man right there deserves some credit

[Savage_Messiah]

Originally Posted by cbrrmike

i dont think anyone has said this, but you have a good friend right there for coming to you with it instead of letting her get what she wants.....
that man right there deserves some credit

I agree. Sorry to hear about this man... Can't think of anything that hasn't already been said.

[79CamaroDiva]

For those of you asking about whether or not to be worried at whatever mark you're at, or even if you pretty much feel like you've got it made, relationships can come apart at any time, some last, some dont. People like my neighbors can be married for 20 years, have two kids grow up and graduate high school, go on to college, and then get divorced. NOTHING is ever set in stone, but until there's problems, why fret about it? Just enjoy yourselves.

[camaroracer1992]

girls/women are all ****ED UP you just need to find the least ****ed up one