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	| yes cheating.. |      | 9 | 16.36% |  
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		|  11-27-2006, 01:50 PM | #1 |  
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				question for all guys and gals?
			 
 
			
			my question is? is a lap dance cheating, not any VIP room or crap like that just a regular lap dance at a strip club. i believe its just harmless fun entertainment and nuttin more but the gf thinks its cheating. theres no double standard here either because i told her to go have fun at a male review but she dont like muscle guys so she dont wanna go.
 theres been a few posters but let me add i dont ask this with the ententions or want to go out every weekend and get lap dances, when i say get a lap dance i mean once in a while or on special occasions like a buddy gets me one on my bday somethin like that
 
 also let me add this isnt somthin regular i wanna be doin, i just turned 21 and i just really wanna get my 1st one and expieriance it. for those of who would say why do i want to.
 
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		|  11-27-2006, 01:53 PM | #2 |  
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			Eh...I guess it depends on your views (or in this case, your GF's). Personally, I don't see why someone with a girl they care about should be out getting a lap dance in the first place.....but that's just me.
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		|  11-27-2006, 01:57 PM | #3 |  
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			if you go home to your wife/girlfriend without banging the stripper its not cheating.
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			not cheating...
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			if you even question it, its not good. cheating, i dont know about that but its a relative question. but in any event, its not right
		 
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		|  11-27-2006, 02:34 PM | #6 |  
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			I dont think its cheating... as long as your hands are at your side, mouth closed, and pants zipped, its not cheating. But personally, I think its a waste of time and money... Ive got no interest in having some skank I dont know dance on my lap.   
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			im not questioning it i believe 100% its not im just trying to find out if my thinking is wrong in most others eyes.
 and for the most part its just that i wanna expeiriance it sense ive never had one it might be a lame waste of money andi wont bother ever again
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			Why don't you get your girlfriend to give you one then?
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					Originally Posted by Tru2Chevy  Why don't you get your girlfriend to give you one then?
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			Maybe its time to start looking for a new GF... one who can move her hips like theres no tomorrow... youll never even want to leave the house let alone go get a lap dance!   
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					Originally Posted by Rob WS6  Maybe its time to start looking for a new GF... one who can move her hips like theres no tomorrow... youll never even want to leave the house let alone go get a lap dance!   |  lol na i love her  wouldnt wanna do that.
 
oh and on the have her give me one note,someone said this on another forum which was another way i think of it and have been brought up to think of it. its like a right of pasage
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		|  11-27-2006, 03:09 PM | #12 |  
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			it is jsut fun.
 besides, there is no sex in the champagne room.
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			If you wanna think of it as a right of passage into manhood or whatever, then go get one and hopefully you'll think it's worth the money you spend. But don't say you weren't warned when your girl flips out on you, since you already know that she doesn't want you to do it.
 Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to get up on a high horse and tell you that you are a bad person or anything.....I'm just saying.
 
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		|  11-27-2006, 03:31 PM | #14 |  
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					Originally Posted by Tru2Chevy  Eh...I guess it depends on your views (or in this case, your GF's). Personally, I don't see why someone with a girl they care about should be out getting a lap dance in the first place.....but that's just me.
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		|  11-27-2006, 03:49 PM | #15 |  
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			   I agree. Why pay for a lap dance when it should be somewhat easy to get ur girl to give you one for free.
		 
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			whats the matter with your girlfriend, doesnt she trust you?  nothing happens in the strip joint,(depending on where your at), but its harmless fun. bring her to the club and get her a dance. my buddy once brought his g/f at the time, now his wife, but the stripper paid more attention to her then she did my buddy, and she was cool about it and actually saw what was going on. 
 i personally rather spend my money on something else. 20 bucks will buy me lunch for a week, but i have experienced a few lappers and i do recommend one just to say you've had one.
 
 last time i was at a nudie bar, it was for my buddies bachelor party, i spent the 10 bucks to get in, and that was it.  we brought our own beer so i didnt need a thing. if you guys are looking for a good one in A.C. go to bare exposure.
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			from a females point of view:
 no, i don't think its cheating, but i also don't think its very respectful. should she get upset? im not sure, but no one can tell her what she thinks. she's already told you she doesn't approve of it, but you are your own man. if you were out at a bachelor party or guys night out, whatever... what goes on during those stays between those walls, but don't go out and get one just because you think you should.
 
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			who cares? go nail some chick u dont know you'll feel better
		 
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		|  11-27-2006, 07:24 PM | #19 |  
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					Originally Posted by 79CamaroDiva  from a females point of view:
 no, i don't think its cheating, but i also don't think its very respectful. should she get upset? im not sure, but no one can tell her what she thinks. she's already told you she doesn't approve of it, but you are your own man. if you were out at a bachelor party or guys night out, whatever... what goes on during those stays between those walls, but don't go out and get one just because you think you should.
 |  I agree!! Thats just asking for trouble. Well if u really like your grl and ur happy with her there should be no reason for u to go to some strip club to look at other grls or get a lap dance.
		 
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			i look at it as, if it's something i'd get mad at if she did. but you said you wouldn't care so lol. if it's only on special occassions and nothing more then i guess it's not a big deal but if she is uncomfortable you have to take that into consideration/
		 
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			1. Don't ask, don't tell.
 2. More than 1 is usually a waste of $20.  Paying to be teased.
 
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			+1 for have her give you one
		 
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			why would she need to know you got one in the first place?....i guess im just missin out on that part...tell her youre going out with the boys, go to the strip club, just dont come back smelling like hooker snatch
 
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